I’m certainly no expert at this – I know Daniel and I could be better at this at times. It’s hard. Working full time jobs, Daniel getting his Masters, and then 2 kids on top of all the other adult duties like cleaning and cooking. I’m exhausted just thinking about it. Here are a few things we do as a couple to stay connected.
Send random texts: OK so really this is me and then Daniel responds. Ha! And actually, it’s not really random. It’s texts throughout the day just saying “I love you!” or “I miss you! Or “xoxoxo” I
know think he gets
annoyed sometimes with the texts that get sent to him, but deep down he loves
it ;) And I of course love it! I’m a tad more “needy” than him.
Simple surprises: Daniel was in Denver for work, so I thought it would be nice to surprise him with a little treat in his hotel room after his long day of meetings and dinner. Wasn’t anything big – just a small plate of snacks and a beer. I had room service bring it to his room when he wasn't there and had them hand write a little note to him. Just letting him know I was thinking about him. Daniel surprised me one afternoon with a bracelet for no reason. Although we hardly ever give each other gifts, it was nice to get one. It just lets the other person know that they were thinking about you.
Make the time to talk/be intimate/cuddle: It’s simple. Talk about your day, talk about the kids, talk about an upcoming date night, or other upcoming plans. Make time to cuddle/make-out/be intimate. Although with kids, you might not be able to be as spontaneous as maybe you once were, but making time for it is better than not.
Date nights: We don’t get these a lot, so they are definitely special when we do. It’s nice to get out with just you two – talking, eating, and having a drink – all un-interrupted. I can’t say that I still don’t feel guilty, because I do, but I don’t let it stop me from enjoying myself. There are so many unique restaurants in the Richmond area, so we try and make it t a new restaurant when we have date night. I love the little tradition we've started!
Have something’s in common: Maybe it’s a TV show? Maybe it’s an extracurricular activity? Maybe it’s cooking? Or maybe it’s re-doing/ re-decorating a room in the house. We don’t have much time in our schedules, but when we do, we seem to start tackling a room in the house to re-do. I love that Daniel has just as much of an opinion on décor as I do. Actually, if I’m being honest, a lot of the time he is better at it than me! I think it’s nice for you to do something with your significant other.